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When we first got married in December 2007, I asked my husband, how many children does he want? He confidently answered 10. 11 months down the road, in November 2008, I gave birth to our firstborn baby boy. After a while being young parents (we were 24 then), I asked my husband again the same question. This time he answered 5. LOL, I wonder what did a charming little creature do that resulted to 50% decrease from his initial target. Life moved on and in May 2010, I gave birth to another baby boy. Repeating my ritual, I asked the same question, and this time a different answer came out. He said he wanted 7 children.

Summing it up, I guess he was super excited when we first got married and really wanted to have a BIG family. Nevertheless, being a father for the first time hit the reality on him that probably he could only handle 5 of these minions. 2 years into fatherhood, he probably thought oh well, taking care of these tiny people are not too bad after all, I think I could handle additional two. Hence in the end it becomes 7.

Fast forward 9 years into marriage, we are now family of 6. We had our third boy in November 2012 and was finally blessed with a girl in August 2015. And guess what, I did not bother asking him the same question again. The past 9 years is definitely not a smooth-sailing journey. We went through sequels of quarreling, in between of deciding what/where to eat, doing house chores, taking care of sick kids, hanging and folding the laundry (yes, I have to mention this haha), and sometimes we just quarreled because we felt like it. Of course we also had a fair share of doing fun things together like traveling, going for a movie with the kids, taking them to the park, or simply, enjoying our late weekend morning with roti canai and teh tarik.  And yes, sometimes or another, we even had our quarrels during this supposedly fun times.

However, with every quarrel, there is a make-up. If there is one advice I could give to all newly married couple, it is to quarrel and to make up.  If there is something bothering me, I would rather choose to quarrel rather than keeping things inside me which will only worsen day by day. No matter how severe the argument was, or how annoying and frustrating things have become, never ever give up because there is always a way to reconcile.

To me, surviving through all these years is the greatest gift that I could ask for.  The journey has taught me the meaning of perseverance at times when I feel like quitting. If given a chance, I wouldn’t have asked for anything to be changed except for that I should have been a better wife to my husband and a better mom to my children. There are innumerable times when I did something but regretted it sooner than I could have imagined. Little things such as getting mad at my husband when he was 5 minutes late for picking me up at the LRT, or shouting at my children when they mess up the house. I wish I was more patient.

Going back to my initial story, now that we are stepping into our 10th year of marriage, I am no longer concerned about how many children we are targeting in the end. Rather, how best can we provide for our 4 angels that we already have (both in worldly life and in preparation for the hereafter) and also how best can I be for my better half. Here’s to tens of years of quarreling and making up and putting them on repeat mode forever ahead.

 

Bismillah..

Kali ni saya nak share my take from satu seminar AlMaghrib yang pernah saya attend a few years back.  Tajuk seminarnya ialah Nation Builders i.e. stories of the Prophets. So untuk entry kali ni, saya nak share pasal Nabi Ayyub a.s. Among semua nabi-nabi yg saya belajar di seminar tu, Nabi Ayyub a.s. is the one who touched me the most (after Nabi Muhammad s.a.w. , of course!), rasa macam boleh relate sangat dengan dia and rasa macam nak sangat jadi setabah dia….inshaAllah.

Kepada orang yang kaya, miskin dan yang dilanda ujian, this is one man yg patut kita contohi.  He has experienced it all, yet he remained sebagai hamba Allah yang taat dan sabar, sehinggalah Allah kurniakan semula nikmat hidup di dunia pada Nabi Ayyub a.s.

Initially Nabi Ayyub a.s. hidupnya senang.  Sangat kaya.  Ladang, ternakan, servants. Dalam zaman sekarang kira tahap multibillionaire lah. All the rich of this world, this man has got it.  And not only that, dia juga ada zuriat yang ramai.  14 orang anak semuanya, all from one wife.  Senang kata, this is the man who has everything we would ever wanted in this life.  Tetapi, walaupun hidupnya sangat mewah dan senang, dia masih lagi hamba Allah yang bertakwa, otherwise takde lah dia diangkat jadi Nabi kan.  So lesson pertama, sekaya mana, sesenang mana pun kita, sentiasa lah jadi hamba yang bersyukur, banyakkan ibadah untuk mendekatkan diri pada Allah. Kata orang, jangan kufur nikmat. Peringatan untuk diri sendiri jugak nih.

Then, masuk phase kedua of his life.  Satu-persatu yang dia ada hilang. Daripada harta benda hinggalah ke anak-anak.  Teringat kata Sheikh Riad masa seminar tu, just imagine the pain of seeing one child dying, yet Prophet Ayyub a.s. saw all of his children died.  Being a mother myself, I can really feel the pain.  Even seeing your child being sick is such a pain, what more seeing them losing their lives. Akhirnya Nabi Ayyub a.s. hilang kesemua anak baginda and on top of that tersangat-sangat miskin. At this point, wife baginda terpaksa keluar bekerja untuk menyara kehidupan mereka. Walau bagaimanapun, tak lama kemudian, dia diberhentikan kerana org sekeliling takut jika dia membawa virus penyakit Nabi Ayyub a.s. Atas desakan hidup, dia terpaksa memotong dan menjual rambutnya sendiri untuk membeli makanan.

Walaupun keadaan baginda sangat teruk, Nabi Ayyub a.s. masih tetap bersyukur. Lebih kurang kata baginda, Allah dah beri aku hidup sihat dan kaya-raya bertahun-tahun, apalah sangat sakit yang Allah bagi sekejap ni. Huhu. Such a good reminder to us all.

Semoga Allah jadikan kita semua setabah Nabi Ayyub a.s. Amin.

Finally managed to log in again after 3 years and after requesting to reset my password. Lol.

Anyway, here are some of latest updates about me and my family.

  • We’re 6! Yupsy, our fourth child and first daughter, Iman Naurah, joined us on 31 August 2015.
  • Our firstborn, Aish Naufal, is currently in Primary 2. Adam Nu’man, is in his last year of kindergarten and Ammar Yusuf just started kindergarten with lots of skipped days. Lol.

Being a mom of 4, I think I am more calm in time of disaster than I was 3 years back. Haha. Partly because the boys have grown up and their mom has too! However, juggling between work and house chores is still an unsettled business. Lol.

Here’s a picture of us during the recent Hari Raya / Eid.

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This year, it was just the 6 of us on the morning of Eid. My parents and mother in-law were in Makkah on Eid and all of our siblings went to their in-laws. We even had Mamak after the Eid prayer that’s how sad our Eid was. Not! It’s a tradition we started since last year, just to end the cravings of Teh Tarik and Roti Canai after a whole month of fasting. Lol.

 

BANDAR SERI BEGAWAN, Khamis, 25 Julai. – Kebawah Duli Yang Maha Mulia Paduka Seri Baginda Sultan Haji Hassanal Bolkiah Mu’izzaddin Waddaulah ibni Al-Marhum Sultan Haji Omar ‘Ali Saifuddien Sa’adul Khairi Waddien, Sultan dan Yang Di-Pertuan Negara Brunei Darussalam bertitah mengingatkan, agat semua aktiviti yang dirancang hendaklah memastikan ibadat sembahyang tidak tercicir.

Kebawah Duli Yang Maha Mulia Paduka Seri Baginda Sultan dan Yang Di-Pertuan Negara Brunei Darussalam bertitah demikian pada Majlis Sambutan Nuzul Al-Qur’an Peringkat Kebangsaan Bagi Tahun 1434H/2013M berlangsung di Dewan Plenary, Pusat Persidangan Antarabangsa, Berakas, di sini.

Kebawah DYMM bertitah menegaskan agar tidak terlepas pandang mengenainya kerana jika terlepas pandang dalam perkara ini bererti kita mengundang laknat Allah Ta’ala.

Baginda bertitah memberi contoh salah satu aktiviti yang sudahpun berlaku iaitu sukan larian yang disebut ‘The Run’ di mana acara-acara tersebut menurut jadual telah bermula dari jam 4.00 pagi lagi untuk menerima peserta. Pada jam 4.40 pula peserta dikehendaki berhimpun di tempat kawasan pemanasan badan, dan tepat jam 5.00 pagi, sesi pemanasan badan bermula, dengan acara-acara larian terus berlangsung termasuklah hiburan. Pada jam 8.30 pagi barulah ketibaan tetamu kehormat dan diikuti oleh beberapa acara lain sehingga tamat pada jam 9.30 pagi.

Melihat pada jadual ini baginda merasa pelik kerana jadual aktiviti itu termasuk dalam waktu Sembahyang Subuh iaitu jam 4.43 pagi hingga membawa ke waktu siang.

Baginda juga mendapat tahu, jumlah peserta adalah ramai, sehingga mencecah beribu-ribu orang, di mana di dalam jumlah seramai itu tentu saja majoritinya adalah orang Islam.

Memandang kepada program tersebut,baginda amat kesal kerana mengabaikan ingatan mereka terhadap sembahyang berbanding sukan.

Dalam hal ini, baginda menyarankan pihak penganjur serta para pemimpin yang terlibat juga, perlu berperanan untuk meluruskan keadaan, kerana kalau tidak berbuat demikian nampak perkara ini adalah satu musibah.

“Sungguh hairan,orang masih saja boleh ketawa, walaupun ribuan para belia dan remaja, lelaki dan perempuan tidak Sembahyang Subuh, padahal mereka juga mungkin sudah faham dan malah tahu, bahawa dua raka’at Sembahyang Sunat Subuh sahajapun, nilainya adalah mengatasi harga dunia ini dengan segala isi di dalamnya”, tegas baginda.

Mengambil kesempatan di majlis ini, baginda berharap agar kejadian yang seumpama itu tidak akan berlaku lagi, di samping itu juga ingin mengingatkan kepada para penganjur dan pemimpin khasnya supaya lebih berhati-hati dalam merancang sebarang rancangan atau kegiatan yang melibatkan anak buah dan orang ramai.

“Adalah perlu, untuk mereka menilai dan memastikan terlebih dahulu agar rancangan atau kegiatan tersebut tidak bertentangan dengan ajaran-ajaran Islam, kerana jika ia bertentangan dan kita pula melakukannya, bukankah ini sama ertinya dengan kita menghinakan diri dan ugama sendiri, tegas baginda.

Baginda seterusnya bertitah mengingatkan bahawa dalam bulan Ramadan yang mubarak ini, di mana pada setiap ruang dan sudutnya berisi dengan keberkatan, justeru itu, baginda menyarankan agar kita merebut peluang ini dengan memperbanyakkan amal kebajikan di dalamnya bagi meraih sebanyak mungkin pahala daripada Allah Subhanahu Wata’ala dan satu daripada kebajikan itu ialah dengan membaca Al-Qur’an.

Baginda bertitah, Al-Qur’an adalah mukjizat agung dan tema Sambutan Nuzul Al-Qur’an pada tahun ini “Al-Quran Sumber Kekuatan” merujuk kepada firman Allah Subhanahu Wata’ala dalam Surah Al-Hasyr ayat 21, yang tafsirnya:

“Sekiranya Kami turunkan Al-Quran ke atas gunung, nescaya engkau melihat gunung itu khusyu’ serta pecah belah kerana takutkan Allah. Dan (ingatlah) misal-misal perbandingan ini. Kami kemukakan kepada umat manusia, supaya mereka itu memikirkannya.”

Dari maksud ayat ini, baginda menekankan tentang kekuatan dan kehebatan Al-Qur’an di mana apabila ia digunakan sebagai perlembagaan hidup, sudah tentu kekuatan itu akan menjelma untuk mendatangi pengamalnya.

Bagi mendapatkan keberkatan, baginda mengajak umat Islam di negara ini supaya berpegang kuat kepada Al-Quran, menghayati hukum-hukumnya, dan mengambil iktibar peringatan-peringatannya.

Dengan cara yang demikian itu, insya Allah, kita akan mendapat aura atau kekuatan yang sebenar-benarnya,” titah baginda.

Dalam pada itu, baginda juga ingin melihat, semua orang hendaklah pandai membaca Al-Qur’an supaya kita dan negara ini sama-sama beroleh kekuatan.

Untuk tujuan itu, baginda bertitah bahawa Perintah Pendidikan Ugama Wajib 2012 dikanunkan dan dengan berkuatkuasanya perintah ini diharap semua kalangan generasi muda, khasnya para penuntut yang ingin melanjutkan pelajaran ke pringkat lebih tinggi di luar negara, tidak akan ada lagi mereka yang tidak pandai membaca Al-Quran. Begitu juga, tidak akan berbangkit lagi, walau seorangpun, yang tidak tahu mendirikan sembahyang.

Baginda seterusnya mengingatkan bahawa kedua-dua ibadat ini adalah asasi bagi menjamin kelangsungan sosio-hidup bangsa. Tanpanya, kehidupan boleh saja malap dan rapuh dan kerana itulah, baginda tidak jemu-jemu memperingatkan supaya jangan sekali-kali mengabaikan Al-Qur’an dan ibadat sembahyang.

 

adibahain: One more reason why Brunei is becoming more and more dear to me!

Just a short trip as we do not have much time.  Fortunately, we still have until end of this year to utilize the annual pass. Glad that the kids had so much fun!

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Tips Kejayaan Penyusuan Susu Ibu

Bismillah. I am totally honored to be chosen as the first “penulis jemputan” at ciklaili.com.  Please have a read of the article there ok? Thank you to Cik Laili for giving me such a wonderful opportunity. I will surely cherish this as one of the sweetest memory being such a novice blogger that I am.  For the rest, I hope my story will benefit you, inshaAllah. 🙂 ❤

P/S: Please click on the link above to be redirected to my entry ya!

I’m dedicating this entry to all refugees in this world, praying that one day, your lives will be back to normal inshaAllah. For the rest of the world, let’s do our part to help them. The message below is sent to me from a dear sister whom I had known from my University life, thank you Kak Taherah for sending me this reminder.

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Bismillah.

How can we answer Allah azza wa jall on yawmul qiyamah when there are people who barely have  a morsel of food to get by their days in our own land yet we enjoy with our families different delicacies to our fill?May Allah alleviate their pain and soften our hearts to be more charitable and concern for others amin. Please kindly share this message with anyone you know especially Malaysians and if it can be addressed to any goverment rep, that would be great. BarakAllahu feekum.

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Plight of the Refugee Women

Posted: 14 Jun 2013 09:05 PM PDT

By: Wajahat Meenai

Five women from five countries, all bound to the same fate as refugees, here in Malaysia. They face life one day at a time, in fading hope, alleviated only through the bond of their friendship and journey together. This is their plight.

 

Refugee from Sudan

Saleema is from Sudan. She speaks four languages (Arabic, English, French, and Malay). She’s married, with three young children. Her husband, Muḥammad has a professional background in restaurant management yet is unable to find a job legally here in Malaysia, while Saleema struggles as a free-lance teacher. They arrived in Malaysia a few years ago, and are only able to make enough money to put a little bit of food on the table for their children every month. Similar to other refugee parents, there are days where Saleema and Muḥammad don’t eat at all or have just one meal in order to feed their three kids.

Mariam, and her husband Kareem are from Afghanistan. They’ve been living in Malaysia as refugees for the past two years. They have a beautiful son who just turned one year old, a few months ago. Kareem used to do odd jobs, mainly taking care of the Shisha preparations in small cafes. Unfortunately due to illness, Kareem could no longer continue with that line of work. Several months past as Kareem struggled with his own health while attempting to find a new opportunity for income, but met with failure repeatedly due to his refugee status.

Even after being registered under the UNHCR program, refugees like Kareem aren’t allowed to work legally in Malaysia. Without steady employment, the lack of income has taken a toll on Kareem’s health as he doesn’t have the funds to seek proper medical treatment. Mariam, Kareem and their one year old son have been diagnosed with malnutrition for a long time now. The only form of support they receive are intermittent donations that provide food on the table irregularly.

 

Refugee women from Syria

In the midst of all these difficulties, Saleema and Mariam have found comfort in their friendship. Both women strive to find opportunities everyday, in order to ensure that their families are safe and healthy. They recently met Jamila, a strong-willed Iraqi woman who lived as a refugee in Syria for four years before coming here to Malaysia. Surviving in Syria for four years wasn’t easy but the situation became worse when the armed conflict began there. Jamila, together with her five children had to flee Syria then, leaving her husband behind. As a single woman here in Malaysia for the last one year, she’s had tremendous difficulties accessing support and employment, thus facing similar problems of malnutrition & not having enough food for the family.

Jamila is just one amongst the hundreds of Iraqi citizens who had been seeking refuge in Syria, and then eventually had to flee in fear of their lives during the armed conflict. This is a similar story shared by Fatema, also a single mother of three children from Palestine, all of whom are suffering from different medical problems. The biggest concern in Fatema’s mind has always been how to help her children medically when her financial conditions are so bleak.

 

A refugee family

Refugees in Malaysia like Fatema & her children are all billed as foreigners at hospitals here, irrespective of public or private, which is effectively double or more in comparison to what a Malaysian citizen pays. If a refugee is lucky enough to be registered under the UNHCR program, he or she is provided a fifty percent subsidization on medical bills. But bear in mind, that this is a refugee who is charged a foreigner rate, and often doesn’t even have a steady income, therefore even a fifty percent subsidized bill is often out of their financial capacity.

Mona, an Irani refugee here in Malaysia knows all these families through their children. She works tirelessly, teaching the kids how to read & write in English, better preparing them for the possibilities of an education in the future. Not only does Mona interact with the children as a teacher, but she relates to them as a refugee herself, struggling to make ends meet every month, hoping for better opportunities in order to provide her own family a dignified life.

In the face of such hardship, these women continue to fight a battle everyday, hoping to bring back some level of normality and dignity to their own families. But they shouldn’t have to face such overwhelming odds alone. It’s time you, me, and all of the beautiful citizens of Malaysia come together to remove the suffering of these lost and afflicted families. Refugees like Saleema, Mariam, Jamila, Fatema, and Mona need a voice, and that’s what Carefugees aims to become – a platform through which support & awareness can be raised for these people.

If you’ve read this far, perhaps you’re asking yourself “so where do I begin to help these people?”. A good beginning is in the Carefugees “Feed a Family” campaign, where the families of Saleema, Mariam, Jamila, Fatema, and Mona are just five out of the 550 registered under UNHCR & MSRI (Malaysian Social Research Institute), that will receive a gift basket full of food & amenities, lasting them the entire month of Ramadan.

Join the Carefugees by becoming part of the “Feed a Family” campaign.

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